Do your thoughts reflect the kind words you would say to a friend or are you constantly putting yourself down inside your head?
July 12, 2018
Identify your crutches Most every time we repress an emotion, we use a coping mechanism. Whether you eat your feelings, drink your problems, or shop your troubles away, you are using a vice to cope with your feelings. Relying on this ‘thing’ allows you to ignore the real emotion and evade – push it down […]
July 12, 2018
1. Refocus your thoughts
Right now, you’re thinking about that one thing that you did wrong, or the thing you SHOULD have done, or how your life is one giant mess as a whole. Take a breath and get back to your center. What are your priorities? Are your priorities to mentally beat yourself down until you’re unable to do anything? If that’s not your goal, then you need refocus your thoughts.
Make a list. Take pen and paper or your list app on your phone and WRITE OUT the things that are most important to you. Try picturing yourself living the life you want to be living. When you picture that, what are you doing? Stop thinking about what is wrong, and focus on what you want.
2. Replace your thoughts
When trying to refocus your thoughts doesn’t work (and there will be the days that it won’t) REPLACE them! Telling yourself to “stop thinking so negatively” won’t make you do it – it will make go even further down the rabbit hole of “what’s wrong with you”.
So just replace them.
July 12, 2018
Avoiding Bad vs Creating Good Maybe you’ve heard this analogy before in a different context: Someone is standing on a ledge. They try to pull you up – but it’s hard. You try to push them down – very simple. It’s much easier to use gravity and a small amount of effort to […]
August 2, 2017
A few months back I came across a blog in which someone shared 10 things they were afraid to share with their readers. I had no idea exactly what would come out of my head when I began typing this out – but I knew it would be a blend of ‘this is where I struggle in my […]
May 10, 2017
I’m not sure if you’re the same, but seeing other people’s ‘inspiration’ posts just puts me in a good mood. Learning what others are enjoying and drawing energy from makes me savor the things that inspire me and sometimes leads me to reach outside my normal inspiration toolbox. Here’s what I’m into right now: 1. […]
August 27, 2015
You’ve finally decided on what photography session you want, who you want to photograph it, when the session will be, and all the major decisions. You book your photo shoot and then straightaway your mind goes to outfits. What in the world are you going to wear? Choosing an outfit for a photo shoot that will show off your […]
August 1, 2015
My journey to becoming a Tulsa photographer has evolved from a love for art that elevates a person to self transcendence. Art has the power to influence emotion, drive, self-esteem, and awareness. On a daily basis art uplifts moods, sparks creative thinking, and reminds you of emotions and memories that you cherish. My […]